My thoughts as I read this thread, and let me know if I am way off base, and feel free to ignore

ED's are pretty serious, which might be why she focuses on it so much? My T had an ED for about 10 years, and my eating habits are terrible, and recently led to elevated blood sugars and cholesterol and high blood pressure from a visit at the doctor's office. We spent about half a session talking about how I H-A-T-E talking about food and what I am eating or not eating, or like to eat, or dont' like to eat..etc. I just hate it, and I don't like eating around other people.
I definitely know my habits are not quite "normal," but whatever--I hate it, and so therefore I don't discuss it with my T. She asked me outright if I thought I had an eating disorder, and I told her no, because I don't think I do. Many factors come into play with my eating, and I do know how and have eaten healthy in the past.
So after that, she mused that she probably focuses on food stuff a little more directly than other T's, because she dealt with an ED, but that if I don't want to discuss it, it si fine with her.

What this long story is meant to show, is that there may be a reason, or reasons why your T focuses so much on that.

That being said, it seems like she leads way too much, and doesn't give you space to bring up what you really would like to talk about. My last T could let silences go on for minutes and minutes at a time, and it was extremely uncomfortable. I saw her for over 5 years, and while the acute anxiety went away about it, and I definitely learned to appreciate silence better, I never liked her approach. I will avoid things at all costs, so letting me completely take the lead means I wlil never really talk about deep down stuff.

WIth this T, she is much more open, and asks questions, and isn't afraid to start the session, BUT, she always leaves spaces for me to sit silently and bring up what I need to. She seems to know when the tipping point is, and I can't say anything, so she'll tell a story from her life that relates to whatever topic we were on.

I think there is a fine line between not letting the client suffer in silence, because speaking up is so difficult for them, and chatting away all the silences, whereas a client feels like they can't bring up what they feel comfortable with that day. Your T seems to cross the line on that one.

Can you e-mail your T some of your concerns? Or write it out, and bring it to session, and say, I have something I want to bring up, and I wrote it down, but I am really scared to talk about it, or read it out loud. (I refuse to read out loud things I send my T--she has tried, and has since given up ) Maybe that will help?