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Old Jul 13, 2017, 03:10 PM
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Originally Posted by artemis-within View Post
LT, I just wanted to say I have the same kinds of interactions w my h and I can talk til I'm blue trying to explain to t but she doesn't "get" it. I sense how I feel in your words.... H and I still haven't figured it out.... I always apologize when I ask for help and he gets upset and I cry and round and round . I get it I so do.
Thanks, Art. It helps to know you understand.

I feel like my T gets it and will makes suggestions, but they often don't seem to work. Like she'll say things like, "Just totally be yourself around him," but that doesn't help.

And MC gets some of it from a fellow-anxiety-sufferer perspective, but he tends to be more likely to recommend changes to how I do/think about things than for how H does (which led to me getting upset with him a couple months ago, because it feels like he--as in MC--thinks I'm the one with all the issues and who has to make all the changes/adaptations in the relationship). Maybe it would help to talk in there about how H and I could find ways to meet in the middle.