LT you know what I want? I want your husband to be up front and actually SAY to you "I feel (fill in the blanks) when you say sorry all the time, I'd rather you ask me then say thanks." That way you aren't compelled to apologize and you aren't reading his mind waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Maybe he could tell you his reactions to your actions instead of seeming angry.

Maybe MC could recognize that both you and your husband could make changes. He could stop making you feel left out of the man-club and implying that you are the only party at fault.

Those are only my thoughts after hearing your story, not meant to offend.