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Originally Posted by Jellyfish18
Divine I feel like in a sea of people talking, I am drowning in mutism. People don't talk to me consistently. I have to go out of my way to have someone talk to me, to give me that attention. And that is sad. Imagine being surrounded by people who never say a word all the time.
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I am sorry you are struggling but strangers aren't going to talk to you even if you are outgoing person and certainly they won't strike friendships .
People don't have reasons to talk to you unless you expose yourself to conversations consistently. If I was randomly go places, people wouldn't start talking to me all of a sudden either, and I am not shy. It's just unrealistic. The only way to ensure people approaching you is to become part of a community.
Places where I talk to people outside of my home are: job (jobs, I have two), class when I take one (either professional or community based type), one meetup I belong to and go out with (women group I found online). And that's about it. Well I talk to random people like stores but that's brief. I go to gym but I don't talk to no one there.
Other than that people don't just come up to me to start conversations or start friendship or want to help me out or teach me things. That's not how world operates. I understand you are having hard time but strangers don't miraculously will start engaging with you regardless of your social skills.