What do you think? Do you think it's beneficial to form an attachment to your T or detrimental? If you feel it's detrimental, what would you recommend to do once an attachment is formed? Also, has anyone experienced healing by working through it?

It makes me wonder. I have trouble accepting my sexuality (gay female who was married to a man for over 13 years and doesn't look like a cliche lesbian- people assume I'm still straight), so I visit strip clubs because it's one of the few places I feel I can look at women. I began to develop an attachment to a particular dancer and I began to get jealous when she went to dance for other patrons.

When I told my T this, she said it was prob best I start to detach, because I was also becoming protective of this dancer and that the jealousy was a sign of an attachment and that I was best to let go. My ex-husband agreed. "It's a business transaction. The relationship ends when the payment does. It's not real."

Can't the same be applied to a T? The relationship stops when the payment does...but the feelings don't take notice of this and they relent.

Don't mind me, just thinking and typing. Lol.