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Originally Posted by topherlee75
Something someone told me once that is critical to how I think and feel, but sadly doesn't always work because I forget it constantly due to my overthinking.
"You cannot control how others think and feel, you can only control how YOU think and feel, it was their perception of what you did or said that caused their reactions, just like your perception is causing your thoughts and feelings"
I am a very intuitive person. So much so that I doubt myself sometimes. It causes the overthinking, and if I did not overthink, I would probably live a much much simpler life.
But I see something, or say something... like the pizza incident. When I asked "if you'll let me know when you are headed home I'll throw it in". Honestly, I was just being nice, and she didn't care. But I took it as "why are you barraging me with this question" and saw it negatively and really... she honestly didn't care when I cooked the damned pizza. I started trying to explain myself and it turned into a big mess. See. I'm still overthinking the pizza thing lol.
I just want people to see I am a good person. No. I want acknowledgement I'm a good person. When I know I am, and should treat myself good. And good will come.
It always does when I'm treating myself worthy.
Try it.
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Yesssss! This is all so relatable. Overthinking is always an issue with me.
And... wow... you gave me an "a ha" moment :
I seem to need acknowledgment from others that I'm a "good" person. Like I need their permission to be worthy. When, really... what makes it right for other people to be the judge of me?
I should only need that acknowledgement from myself.