I have read about your therapy stories and I'm not sure what to make of them. You clearly seem unhappy with her and there are some things which point that she might not be good enough for you but otherwise I personally see nothing particularly unprofessional in the things she has told you.

You say that you feel like a 10 years old again and I think that's great. Sure, it feels unpleasant but this is actually the therapy material to work with. In the transference you feel with her the same way as you felt when you were 10 years old, the same feelings are activated. This means that there are some hurt and difficult feelings stored in your 10 year old self that need to be processed, otherwise they wouldn't have been activated that forcefully. It is your opportunity now to talk about those feelings honestly to your T and in her responses you will see whether she can truly help you or not.

I think that confrontation has its part in therapy. By saying that she doesn't care if she is stored in your phone but your friend does I hear that she is confronting your behaviour, calling you to think about why you do the things you do and asking you to consider what effect it has on others (your friend). It doesn't mean she doesn't care about you but it wouldn't be ethical for her to care about being in your phone though.

For some reason this confrontation triggered very intense feelings in you and I would suggest you go and talk to her about it, try not to shut down, try to tell her exactly how you feel without worrying about her. If she knows how to do her job she will help you, if she becomes defensive (which I don't think she has so far), starts blaming you (which I thinks she hasn't done either) or gets hurt by your words then sure, you need a new therapist. But now it seems to me that you have just reached some real stuff to work with Unfortunately this real stuff is always painful and unpleasant - otherwise you wouldn't need to be in therapy in the first place.