Calilady,

I'm sorry if you feel judged by my post, it was not meant that way. As for your therapist words, I am not able to understand that she was judging, guilting or shaming you, but I certainly can relate to your response to what she has said. If those are the only kinds of statements she given you in the time you've worked together, then you probably do need to find another therapist or brave it on your own finding other ways to move forward. When statements like that were made to me I had no other good experiences to hold onto. I had to unhook my past experiences to what is being said at that moment. It was not easy, because all the negative messages and violence flooded my system from head to toe, and ALWAYS left me in a flight or fight response. Where was the proof that this experience with my therapist would be different? That was where I had to finally heed her words to trust her and then I could learn to trust myself. That was the most frightening statement I ever had to deal with. Death seemed much easier.

Like others that have had issues with therapist, I do not believe working with a therapist is the only way to heal.