I'm not sure if it was dismissive, but maybe that she is trying to give you credit where credit is due. I think with the SA stuff, she knows it will be extremely triggering, and maybe feels you aren't ready to delve into that? If you disagree, tell her. I also don't think she thinks "Well, we talked about the list, so that's done!"

I've mentioned a few times that I think you should try EMDR. You don't need to believe in it for it to work. You also don't need to actually talk about all the trauma- that is the benefit of it. Not saying it will be easy, but if she trained w the founder, that means she is well-qualified. I would think more seriously on it. What do you have to lose at this point?