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Originally Posted by DodgersMom
i plan to. its in my notes for tuesday
i am so terrified though. i don't even understand why it feels so wrong to me, i have no sexual abuse history.... i feel like I'm just insane.
the issue i worry though, is say i do become out with it with him, how do i transfer that to people i dont trust or feel safe with?
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It doesn't necessarily have to come from SA history. It can be any number of things, say, relatives being overbearing about being required to hug at family gatherings. Or maybe it's a sensory thing where being close to people is too overstimulating. Or maybe one learned in a non-touching scenario that people cannot be trusted and physical intimacy is an extension of that. Etc.
And I would say you never have to extend this to people you don't trust or feel safe with. Ever, absolutely no exceptions.
But you might find (or not) that you do eventually trust more people-- and this can be a process akin to watching grass grow.