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Originally Posted by anais_anais
It doesn't necessarily have to come from SA history. It can be any number of things, say, relatives being overbearing about being required to hug at family gatherings. Or maybe it's a sensory thing where being close to people is too overstimulating. Or maybe one learned in a non-touching scenario that people cannot be trusted and physical intimacy is an extension of that. Etc.
And I would say you never have to extend this to people you don't trust or feel safe with. Ever, absolutely no exceptions.
But you might find (or not) that you do eventually trust more people-- and this can be a process akin to watching grass grow.
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i have major trust issues so thats my thing, i don't see ever being able to trust others to the point, id be intimate with them etc.
i trust 3 ppl in my life. thats it. unless you count my dogs lol
and ya i guess that makes sense, we didn't touch/hug at all in my family, other than high fives sometimes.
i think maybe its because i was always told to keep my hands to myself, along with many other things that kept me terrified of getting close to people.