Me and my girl have been together for a little over eight months. I'm really starting to consider breaking up her. I love her to death and it will just about kill me. But she will not help herself. I have to push her in everything and it's starting to poison my mood. For example I have to remind her to take her meds every morning. I have to push her to call and make appointments with her therapist. I have to get her to call her doctor because she has tendonitis. It's so frustrating to be in this relationship at times.

A month and a half ago she went overseas to a field school that required a lot of physical labor. She thought she could handle going from very little physical activity to digging holes, moving rocks, and carrying buckets of dirt. Well she couldn't handle it and has been in constant pain since. She saw a doc overseas and was told she over extended her muscles and a few days bed rest is advised; she didn't listen. When she comes back she lays around in my house for over two weeks and wanders why she isn't getting better. I tell her to exercise a little bit. She refuses and even when a doctor tells her the same thing. She does nothing to help herself. Now it's all "my back hurts, my hips are killing me, I'm in so much pain, can you tub my back, etc..." I'm so over it

I just want to help her, but she doesn't want to help herself. I think I'm in a toxic relationship? Hell we haven't been intimate in almost two months