I feel very fortunate because I have a therapist who is very open and comfortable with touch. My t sits next to me every session. She doesn't start there but comes over when the time is right. She holds my hand, rubs my back, puts her arm around me and will even hold me. The best part is how loving she does it and how safe it feels. After my first experience in therapy I realized how important this was to me so I actually sought out a therapist who was open to doing this and a kind of therapy that acknowledged the importance of touch vs. making therapists feel like something is wrong with it. For me it is really important because of the extent of my trauma around touch.....having a t not flexible in this area was a deal breaker. Her touch has been the most healing part of my therapy. I am so thankful for her and the healing actually happens through the safe touch more so than the talking. I hope you can put yourself out there, be vulnerable and ask for what you need. It is hard to do but worth it. If your t says no.....just know that there are actually many t's out there who do believe in the value of touch in therapy.