To me these statements sounds like observations about what she thinks/feels could be happening. They don't necessarily look like criticism to me.

Perhaps it's easy for me to see it that way because I've been in "combat" with my T many times. Yeah, many times I don't like to admit it in the session but after leaving the session I can see quite clearly what happened. I think it is quite natural (subconsciously) for patients to want to punish their Ts, to combat with them, to want them to fail because we need to see how T-s handle those situations - do they get along and start fighting with us or are they able to see things for what they are and handle them constructively.

Observing and naming things for what they are is one constructive approach. Your response could be to ponder whether the observation could be true. Could be be that you actually are trying to punish your T? If so then why? These are all interesting questions to explore. Labelling all these kind of statements as criticisms has the effect that they will get the colour of a judgment and can be never curiously explored.