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Originally Posted by eskielover
Not sure how you can love someone like that to death.....my love is based on my total relationship & respect for a person.....sounds like a REAL FOUNDATION to your relationship is non-existent. Nothing lasting can grow from a relationship with no foundation....& NO, LOVE is NOT the foundation a relationship is based on. Respect for how the other person behaves is the core foundation.
I experienced this in my own personal life....there were things that really bothered me about my fiancee's behavior I realized right before the wedding that caused me not to respect him (attitude issues). I rationalized it away.....regretted that choice for 33 years before I finally left....for exactly the same issues I had before the wedding. The lack of respect for him I went into the wedding with kept REAL LOVE from ever growing. I would suggest that you might experience a similar situation.
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Thanks for your reply,
I wouldn't say our foundation is love. Our foundation is built on how we understand one another, the similar problems we face, and our outlook on life (well most the time) frankly I think I've come to start resenting her because I'm sick and tired of dealing with her problems.
She's been dealt a bad hand in life and its skewed her outlook on life. It has crossed my mind to take a break from one another until she gets her priorities in line. But her mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer a couple hours ago and I feel like that would tear her apart