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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
To be able to trust her and do this kind of deep work, you have to feel deep down that she can handle whatever you bring to her. Angry stuff, embarrassing stuff, intense love and hate, whatever. She has to be able to absorb and understand it all and gently give it back to you in a processed form without being tripped up by her own anxiety, fears, and vanity. This would, at a bare minimum, require that she not tell you about how off-kilter she gets about these somewhat low-grade problems you two are having with the therapeutic relationship.
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I agree--if a T gets angry with or feels hurt by a client, they're supposed to deal with that on their own time--not share it with the client. Therapists are supposed to be able to contain/hold your feelings--therapy should be a safe place to express whatever is on your mind. Both my T and marriage counselor have told me I don't have to worry about their feelings/reactions (and generally keep their feelings out of the therapy room--with the exception of caring about me). If you have to worry about offending the therapist, then it's not a truly safe place and you can't really be as open as you need to be (I'm saying "you" as a general person, not the OP specifically).