IMO -
When sex has been a major part of any ones young life it will tend to take over and consume in your adult life until you seek some form of counseling to help HEAL the deep inner wounds that were created in you from the past sexual abuse.
Are you in counseling now? - if not please look into it..... YOU will be better off from having talked to a T about this matter in you life and marriage.
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(and) Thanks for Sharing....