you said that he won't give you the money to get your care re registered, I'm sorry but that sounds very much like he's controlling you, and he's avoiding you, by working longer hours during the week and on the weekends also, you said that's not how it used to be....I know that you're grieving over the loss of your mum, but, right now I'd be very concerned about the way he's treating you, sorry, don't want to alarm you, but that's sounds to me like he's beginning to control you, this is not good, I would suggest you 'confront' him about it, I know that it's not my business, but I recognise the beginnings, and I speak from experience, please let us know how things go, I am concerned for you.....