I have a male friend i know 20 years. we would go for coffee and for a drink. Last year he said i was emailing him too much so i stopped

now if i text for coffe he will be mostly busy or not replky at all if he is not going. i think he is too tight to spend the text if not going. he then expects me to be available when it suits him

now he has a girlfriend i am not jealous or anything. but he now seems to
1 put being with her first
2 expect me to be free wehn it suits him
1 is ok. 2 annoys me. he seems to do all the running and make all the rules. he won't go for a drink with me - doesn't drink he says- but he does drink when its her. he goes for drink with her

I did not respond at all to last texts so he sees what it is like if someone does not respond. I think he wanted me to go for coffee and ask me to go somewhere else with both of them and be a free taxi for him and her. I have a reason to think that

I am vey straight up nad not manipulative. Some people are very manipulative- see my first thread here. I do not see it as i would not do it

I do not want to be used as a taxi. or as anything. I found out recently when i needed a friend that people i had helped freely did not want to know. so i dropped them. i am thinking of dropping him but don't have may other friends.

On principle i would not let someone take advantage of me