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Originally Posted by BlueCrustacean
Rejection is hard- but ghosting is by far the worst, most annoying, most INFURIATING form of rejection by far. It leaves you to wonder what you did wrong, what they must really think of you and what exactly happened. Even for the stupidest of reasons.
Recently this cute guy I like, out of the blue, texted me asking if he could come visit me sometime and hang out. I said yes, that sounds like fun! I sent that text maybe 15 minutes later, and immediately felt kind of awkward about using an exclamation mark. That was Wednesday, and he still hasn't responded. HE'S the one who initiated a conversation with me, and I don't understand how my response in any way warranted a red flag to run away.
Honestly, I'd rather get a brutal text back from a guy saying, "You're ugly and worthless and no man will ever love you!" than no response at all. It fills me with deep, ugly rage to be ignored for no discernable reason. It reeks of cowardice to leave someone in mystery and not be honest.
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I'm sorry to hear that you were ghosted. I can understand why you'd be infuriated! I often too give a lot of attention to phrasing, punctuation, emoji use. And it's totally disheartening, from my experience, to find yourself being "cut off" for no understandable reason being left to ponder what aspect of your conversation was a turn off. It's like trying to go to sleep, but the faucet in your bathroom has a slow and almost inaudible drip, but you do notice it. So much so that you can't take your attention off of it.
I've been ghosted by friends I'd known for almost a decade and a plethora of romantic partners. For me it's usually not infuriating, but depression inducing. In regards to romantic partners I do get ghosted frequently, but sometimes I'm given the response "I don't know" as a response to my question in regards to their change in attraction to me. It's absolutely confusing and disheartening!
I was once ghosted by a therapist! Happened when I was in elementary school. The first therapist I truly liked. I still remember her name; over 20 years later. I even painted her in a crude family portrait when I was maybe 8 or 9 years old. Then one day she was just gone. Ghost! I have no idea what happened to her.
Ghosting is pretty awful in general. But, I'm not sure getting a brutal truth or possibly even a lie(who could ever verify or disprove it?!) is any better.
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