This is out of hand, hon. You need to do whatever it takes to safely get away from him. As harsh as it sounds, it really *is* that simple.

He needs to leave the property, and frankly so do you, because he is very dangerous.

He isn't your responsibility. If he becomes homeless and lives on the street, it is because he chooses to do so. If he kills himself, it is because he chooses to do so and has nothing to do with you. No matter how long you have been together, or what he says. It is all about his own choices. If his alcoholism causes him problems, that is because he is choosing to keep drinking, and it isn't your responsibility. It is not your responsibility to deal with his psychiatric problems. He has a psychiatrist. He is an adult and it is his responsibility to figure out how to take care of himself. There is SSI, and other community programs. If he chooses not to try them, it is because that is his choice.

About his psychiatrist, she probably knows he is lying to her. He is undoubtedly lying to you about what she says. Just because he tells you that she says it is healthy for him to express his anger, doesn't mean she actually told him that what he is saying to you is OK. He admits to lying to her, why do you believe that he is honest with you? He isn't an upstanding citizen who engenders trust and loyalty. He is an abusive, lying, narcissistic cretin.

He chooses to behave the way he behaves and live the way he lives. That is not your responsibility. No matter what he has been through, what problems he has, in the end it all comes down to the fact that he is violent and controlling and a danger to you, because he chooses to be.

He has knowingly assaulted you physically, and sexually, and has threatened your life verbally. If someone else were telling you this story, it would be clear to you that they are in grave danger, and that the person by whom they are being abused is a predatory criminal.

He needs to leave the premises and you need to be safe. The details are just distractions from the fact that your life is in danger and that requires immediate action.