Welcome Chris204, In my experience I don't see things the way others do. I too suffer from depression and I do not think your friend is withdrawing from you but I think depression is keeping her from contacting you. You see depression to me is it's own animal. It does to us what it wants to with no forgiveness. Your friend is ill with a sickness that is trying to take over her being. If she has talked to you about her depression maybe try to get her to acknowledge that she received your message. Please Jill (I don't know her name), can you let me know if you are OK. A simple yes or no will do. If this will get her away from depression for a second maybe she will talk more. Never tell a person with a mental illness that it is up to them to ask for help. Most likely they can't. This is only my opinion nothing more or nothing less.