im totally confused about this whole story.

why would someone have to be a jerk to keep a secret? my boyfriend has done stuff like that where he has bought me a present and kept it a secret but he was never a jerk "to distance himself". this whole thing just sounds very very odd and it feels like were missing part of the equation. mostly on how hes a jerk.

if youre dad says stay away then i would trust your dad. i wish i would have listened to my family when they told me to stay away from my ex boyfriend. hence, he is now my ex.