i had both happening (ET and maternal) and at the same time sometimes. most of my transference was maternal and then when there was ET, it usually happened between/out of sessions.

the only way i was successful in lessening my transference was doing neurofeedback in conjunction with my talk therapy. the NFB helped to calm my emotional dysregulation and as i became calmer, much of the transference between my T and me settled. the ruptures that we use to continuously have ended as well. it was as if i was finally able to take a step and approach my therapy from a calmer and more practical perspective that i could never do prior to doing NFB. prior to NFB, i was quite triggered much of the time in and after therapy.

as time went on, and as the transference lessened more, even my T commented on it. he said he was finding it challenging, in a new way, because he had been using my transference as a tool in therapy. he was a bit lost not knowing how to work with me since there was very little transference to work with as a result of the progress i had made with the NFB. i for one was glad that there was not much transference to work with any longer. i was finally starting to feel sane and i definilty enjoying that feeling.