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Old Jul 17, 2017, 05:14 AM
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We don't have an exact plan. The goal is to keep tapering down a week at a time till we hit 2 months in between sessions. And the very end goal is to not have consistent sessions, but to only see her when I need to.

I'm going to try to tell her what I wrote here, but I'm worried she won't understand that it's still difficult. But I also want her to be proud of me that I'm actually coping well.

I'm going to follow her plan no matter what. It is working. I'm becoming more secure in our relationship and on my own. And I see how much effort she is putting into this, and I want to put in the same amount. I mean, she emails me every week with reassurance. She's going on vacation to Europe in August, and I still get to email her. She has offered phone calls to prevent breakdowns. And she has even finally agreed to get me a stuffed animal (she originally said it's a boundary).

The attachment just makes it difficult. I want to hang on for dear life, but I know the healthy thing to do is start to let go.
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