Hi trev,

Nice to see you here on PC

What sort of concerns, specifically, do you address her on? What sorts of things do you see as her fair share of the blame?

Somewhere in the middle you two are not meeting half way. If you put aside her lack of "acceptance" of what's going on here, just for now, I'm wondering what the real issues in this relationship are? i.e.: exactly what it is you're trying to get her to acknowledge.