Good points. Xynesthesia-I'm sorry about your experience with your T. I do think response to ET can reflect overall character and competency of the T, so it's not surprising there were patterns present everywhere.

I don't mean to say there should never be enjoyment of such feelings by a T and would expect some positive feelings by Ts in response to some disclosures or feelings. I agree to be wary of a T who consistently enjoys it and especially who encourages it; some may be covert and undetectable by the client. It seems that was a factor in some of these cases gone bad, which seem to involve a T using a client to meet their needs.

It's parallels incest, in away, where a parent who is supposed to be looking out for the child's best interests uses them to meet their (sexual) needs or need to be admired.

My T responded in a competent way to my disclosures, and although he's made some mistakes, he was competent in handling the transference. So I feel fortunate. But I do wonder about any negative feelings he had in conjunction with my feelings.