Hmm, i dont think abuse could be called, mistreatment and cruel certainly - but every bad thing that happens to countless people isnt always labelled as abuse. Sadly people can act in terrible ways, and thats just how some people are. A label here wouldnt help and i dont think really matters - its just bad people behaving badly im afraid, noone would have a case to answer for her, sadly its perfectly acceptable for people to behave very poorly