I understand that you can't change your T's, nor do I think you should. I'm just thinking that would it be possible to accept what the T is offering (because you obviously can't change her way of thinking) and at the same disagreeing with her, because let's be honest - her 2 year term is completely arbitrary. Why would it be wrong to admit it? To me, that kind of position would sound much more independent because you are an adult and capable of thinking for yourself what you need and what not - no T can say it for you.

Right now I get the feeling that this kind of situation is like the one the kids are in when their parents are doing something that is not best to them - they just can't accept that their parents aren't doing good for them because they are dependent on their parents. But this is a child's position who really has no choice. The adult position could be different - to think independently what is good for me and what is not and although if I need something from another person I have to accept what they are offering but I could still refuse to agree with their judgement on things.