Dear MC,
Maybe the real--selfish, of course--reason I feel upset is that I felt rather pushed aside during session. I was sitting there, sobbing hysterically, and you'd say a few things about how H wasn't referring to me as a person, just to a particular thing I did or didn't do. But mostly it was like, "We have to come back to H." Which, I get. At the same time, it felt like you were ignoring my pain. So maybe that's what this is partly about. But you're our marriage counselor--you're not supposed to be focused on *my* pain, but on what's going on in the marriage. But you've pretty seriously muddied that and blurred some boundaries there, so it's hurtful to me when one day you're calling because I'm worried about test results, and a few days later, it feels like you're just leaving me there sobbing on the couch.

Do I tell you that? I don't know...The last thing I want to hear right now is some line about boundaries. When I'm sobbing and in agony, I don't give a **** about boundaries--I want help.

--LT