I didn't start getting into my therapy until just before I kicked out my abusive fiance. And I had been going, off and on, for many years. I thought my third marriage would solve my problems, but it didn't.

I've been with my current T for almost six years. In that time I dug down deep into my traumas. I had quite a lot to deal with, and my T helped with that. Thankfully he's an old coot and he's heard and seen a lot of things, both as counselor and as professor. I'm at the point where we've dealt with most of the past trauma and doing more current stuff. Not that the past doesn't pop in anymore--it does--but I'm better able to deal with it.