It's those awkward moments of silence which are most uncomfortable for me. Still, they are a time to dive right in. So too, watch body language for an indication one or the others is getting bored with the current topic. Another great opportunity for a lead in.

Current events is a good subject to initiate discussion. Though completely different as they may be, everyone has their own idea of what is happening in the world. And, the conversation need not be political.

What are you interested in? You might be surprised that you are not alone in your opinions.

My boyfriend, for his good reasons, belongs to a group I really can't stand. I have nothing in common with these people. But I will go with him to events and functions to support him (he isn't entirely pleased with this group himself). I find myself in the position of having to change the subject drawing it away from motorcycles and the rather alarming social and political views that predominate. This is at times difficult to do but I have become practised at it.

For this is what it takes. Practise.