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Originally Posted by chuckbill
 Ive been married to a man with narcissistic tendencies for a long time. He does this: When our grown children or other family members are with us, he discounts my opinions, tells me I am wrong, doesn't walk next to me... it's subtle, but definitely he is showing everyone I am not important. How can I respond at the time without being obnoxious? |
the first thing I would do would be look closer into things like his religion and cultural background (your post did not state whether his belief systems require him to be more dominant one in the family. not to mention there are many different kinds of relationships... some of which do require the female to be more submissive and discounted....there are many different belief/ sexuality and other systems that naturally require the female to be submissive and discounted.
if he isnt of these nationalities, religions/ races and such them my opinion is why be subtle and not obnoxious. this is america were americans are treated with respect and equality. to not do so is called discrimination and abuse in some states..
my point if this was me I would state flat out ....dont treat me like this, its discrimination and abusive. if you cant treat me in respectful / non discriminatory and non abusive ways then maybe we should not be together. (yes I have been there and done that and what I did.)