Thank you all!

Jennifer, it's taken me almost ten years of intense therapy and working on my own as well to reach this realization, and I'm finding my resolve isn't as strong as I'd like it to be.. Recently, someone I thought was my best friend went no-contact completely out of the blue and without any explanation as to why, which brought all my insecurities straight back to the surface.. I've started to think this might be something I'll be struggling with for the rest of my life.

Just need to keep reminding myself that no matter who it is that mistreats me, it might not be about me but them, and even if it is about me, if they don't tell me what the problem is, there's nothing I can do. So long as I'm open to hearing their thoughts and correcting my behaviour when needed, I think I'm doing my part.. Others need to do theirs as well, or there really is no basis for a relationship at all, and I need to move on.