((((((((Sabby)))))))))
Thank you for your post

... I wish i could take your advice and write my mom a note ... but any form of communicating my thoughts gives me such anxiety... I'm not strong enough to do that

... and i realize that nothing will change unless i confront her, so i just keep hoping that one day i will have enough strength to be able to do so. One of the reason's why I think seeing a T might be beneficial...
(((((((((Jinny)))))))) Thank you too for your response

It's nice to know that my feelings can be somewhat validated.

's to you both