Time definitely helped me feel more secure.

Time, trust, patience, loyalty and communication.

Sure I still have times I get super anxious, (very rarely tho) just this past Saturday it seemed the faecal matter hit the ceiling oscillator and I nearly ran in order to avoid all those feelings and everything that comes with it...

But I practiced some mindfulness, put myself in reactionary timeout (no action allowed till a certain amount of time has passed) had an open and honest (calm) chat with my bf, and my fears have been put to rest. I am back to feeling more secure.

I doubt I will ever be 100% securely attached, but the reduction in anxiety is a good enough improvement for me.

It definitely beats pushing him away, running away, or anxiously waiting for something to go very very wrong.