NP, I hope you do continue to talk with your T. I suspect he cares very much and wants to help you and recommended the DV hotline because in this situation, they can provide more immediate, specific, and helpful support. He can provide ongoing support, but when someone is making threats on your life and abusing you, you need crisis intervention thata DV hotline can help you coordinate. They can help you safety plan, assess the escalating abuse, and document what is going on.