I thought this article might give some insight to some that struggle. Sometimes, when one's own challenges get so confusing some parts of the overall picture has not been recognized as it should be. I think this is especially true when a person had/has an alcoholic parent that they never achieved the closeness with in a normal way.

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narci...m_source=Psych

The affects this can have on someone can vary, however, often one may deeply desire the "control" they did not have in their childhood. How that can manifest into some unhealthy thoughts/behaviors/challenges. Some of these are listed in this article:

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...el-in-control/

Some of the questions about "why do I" that can present with complex PTSD can come from things one may not really realize that is not their fault but how that person had to adapt to their childhood environment.