I can not blame you for your anger. I would say you are very stable. You also have the right idea about the right way to raise your daughter as far as the value of things. Judging from what you have said here I think you are a damn good mom too. I kept expecting the post to say your husband agreed with his parents. I am so glad that is not true. I think it is great that you keep his parents updated. It would be easy to ignore them. All you can do is tell them she is your child and you and your husband are in agreement about the way she should be raised. Many grandparents forget what type of parents they really were. You are in a very frustrating situation. Hopefully one day they will be realistic and admit what a good mom you are