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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
Thank you so much for this. It's not the same people all the time, but sometimes it just feels I have nowhere to just "be". Sometimes I want to talk and nobody wants to listen. See, that's usually the problem with those questions too, even if I do answer honest - most people don't want to hear, yet, they don't like feeling lied to either. I'm not a good enough liar to pull that off and I don't want to be. People just need to decide one way or the other if they want to know my answer or not BEFORE they ask the questions. They need to learn to deal with it when I choose not to answer too.
Problem is, I know I can't control what they do or how they react to me. I can only control me and how I react to them, and I'm not sure how to do that anymore. I just know I'm tired of the games.
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This is why I never liked nor did I ever see the point in small talk.
To me, small talk is perhaps one of most fake and phony superficial practices that humans engage in. I mean, why would you ask how somebody is doing if you don't care? I would rather talk about things that I'm passionate about or that actually mean something over a bunch of idol chatter.
If somebody comes up to me and asks me how I'm doing and I'm not having a great day, I do everything in my power to disengage from the conversation. I either keep my earphones on and pretend I didn't hear them, I look at my phone and claim that a friend needs something important and I need to go ASAP, I pretend that I'm mute or I mumble just to avoid talking about it.
I understand your frustration with this.