I don't know how to the the quote tool but f*%$, if this isn't me:

"Transference expresses the unmet need of the infant. It is about dysregulation. In this paradigm we can look at transference as a nervous system seeking its own regulation from the other, almost always on its own dysregulated but insistent terms. Transference relationships that arise with patients who have suffered developmental trauma are fraught with expectations of mothering and intensified by affect dysregualtion, distrust, and unbearable hunger. For both the patient and the therapist this transference can be challenging to manage."

I agree that ET is more than just maternal/paternal past issues and it doesn't do us much good to over pathologize. I really relate to the above piece and feel as though that's what's missing from my therapy. I know that I didn't develop normal self regulatory systems and because my therapy is psychoanalytic, I have not been given help with coping mechanisms - we talk, that's it. It isn't enough because now we are going into a break, I'm falling to pieces.