I'm a 38-year-old man. After a long period of unemployment and constant rejection I was fortunate enough to land a great job recently. While I'm very excited about this opportunity, something that I've struggled with a lot over the past few years has really got me down: I feel very insecure and self-conscious about my appearance. Specifically, I'm having a really hard time accepting the fact that I'm losing my hair. This may sound absurd or vain, but I can barely stand the sight of myself in the mirror. At my new job they wanted to take a headshot of me for their website, and before she started, the photographer asked if I wanted to fix my hair first. I made a joke about it, but inside I felt gutted.

I want to feel confident and appear confident to others at my work, but I just don't know how to get this toxic self-consciousness out of my head. I'm considering just saying "f*** it" and buzzing my head, but I'm afraid I'll wind up looking worse.

Any suggestions? Thanks for listening to me whine.