
Jul 21, 2017, 05:08 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2014
Location: ohio
Posts: 4,045
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Originally Posted by Misterpain
Meds mask symptoms , masking anger will come back to haunt you, do not give others the power to anger you , it is self defeating ...
If someone tried to rob you at knife point , would you say kinves dont scare me and give them a gun, no , so don't let others know where your buttons are because they will abuse them and consequently you, why? ,because they can !
Making someone else angry is using there buttons to win "The fight" before it begins.when we make decisions or statements under the influence of anger , we give away our power to make sound judgements , you can turn your anger into a positive by using it as a motivator to channel yourself into something else , for me it's music , there is all kinds of music that can take you to all different emotions,if someone angers me I don't show it and I will go listen to something that defuse's the anger and allows me "space" , to reflect on why it angered me , then re engage with that person on a productive level not colored by anger ,doing this has shown people that trying to anger me is a waste of time ,because instead of doing or saying something out of anger ,it fuels me to examine why ? And then to resolve it .The people you love the most can oftentimes be the most toxic nothing hurts like or more than family .
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thank you so much misterpain....you are so right
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