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Originally Posted by DodgersMom
Anyone's T ever hug, hold or touch them (like pat on the back, etc)? How often? Who initiates?
My T and I have hugged 4 times now, he always asks and gives me the chance to say no. It's due to a lot of issues I have being hugged but I feel safe with him so its been helpful so far
He has said that due to my other issues with touch, he is willing to work on safe touch exercise with me but we didn't get time to discuss it more so I'm not sure what that involves.... anyone know?
I kinda have a desire to be held by him... as I have never experienced that with a person but I'm far too scared to ask that, it feels too creepy... does anyone do that with their T?
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T and I use touch a lot. Not sure exactly what your T means by safe touch. For me trust and touch are closely related, as well as making me feel safe and grounded (avoiding dissociation). That's why we use it. I told him that it feels creepy to me and he always says it isn't. 90% of the time I initiate, but he usually reciprocates on some level, never inappropriately though. He knows if I could spend the whole time cuddling I would lol.