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Originally Posted by AllHeart
Wow! That's a very disturbing lie for a t to tell a client. Putting emotional stress on a client like that is sick. I caught my ex-t in a few lies during the "good" years but I never said anything to her about it. At the time, I felt the lies were little enough to overlook because I was smitten with her from transference and had the attachment thing going on. The woman turned out to be a deceitful fraud anyway. Lesson learned. So, if I were to catch my t in a lie now, rest assured I would bust her out on it. I would not trust her in the least ever again so I would def leave therapy.
How did things end up for you and your t last Friday, Calilady? Did you decide to go to your appointment?
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I did. I posted about it somewhere, but overall, we really avoided any serious topics until the end. I told her I didn't wanna be the loyal and devoted person to women who can be rather cold with me, her included. She went onto tell me that she was anxious last week because she wanted to "keep me," not lose me and that she has to go into her own therapy and yada, yada, yada.
She cancelled her appointment for today due to a loss in her family. It made me think of the therapist that I had before. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything, but this morning as I was pulling out of a gas station, I saw her walking into a breakfast spot. In her text to me she had said that was leaving out of town last night to go out of town and wouldn't be there at all today. I'm sure plans can change, so I'm not trying to jump the gun, but my trust in her was nearly kaput before this happened. I was forcing myself to go to appointments.
IF she's lying and that's a big if, it wouldn't be the first time she's done that. I do feel like in the past, I was the expendable client. She had lowered her fees for me and fit me in on her lunch break. Overall, this would be the 4th cancellation in 3-4 months.
I know I'm looking for a reason not to go and a huge part of that is trust. Not too much trust left on my part and I do feel I've began to go on auto-pilot and detach from her. It's still painful though.
I guess I'll wait and see what happens. I don't want there to be a loss in her family, yet, I also don't want her to lie about it. I do feel super selfish.