Hi Sapphire

The man would not have got pneumonia from you forgetting to fit the continence pad
It was not your fault

And the messing up- although I'd be saying making mistakes- do you think that could be largely due to the stress in your personal life??
Sure people say that you need to treat work as separate from your personal life..........but that can be a whole lot easier said than done sometimes!!
And when you have real difficulties in your personal life, as you said you had, then it can be unavoidable in that it's going to have an impact on you in a lot of other areas of your life inc. at work.
So perhaps none of this is about any "incompetence" on your part but much more about stuff you've been going through and maybe stresses of work adding to that??

And hey, if you want to talk about some of the stuff in your personal life...........
But otherwise I would say that yes, you may have been giving peoples opinions a little more (a lot more!!) thought/credit than they deserve as in your father's, the coach's, the girl from your previous job's.........just because it's someone's opinion doesn't mean there has to be a chance that they are right, or even that you need to prove anything to them.........if they're not supportive/if they are negative then.........

And this: "I have been goign against the grain. By ths i mean i havent been working to my strengths"
Absolutely!!! Do what feels right for you!!! You are going to have strengths, just as everyone has strengths and weaknesses!!! Nevermind what anyone says or the "Should"'s that may come to mind, keep on working on what might be right for you and what you want.........in both your work and your personal life

Alison