I'm caught in the middle of a weird transference/counter-transference dynamic happening with my t. We're currently taking a month off from each other. Or longer. Or forever. I don't know yet. She's been this "good-enough mother" for me for a long time.... in that way the transference worked like it is "supposed to". BUT! The flip side of that - she recently admitted to a not-so-perfect relationship with her own mother who is no longer living, which I think figures into her counter-transference, and also sometimes she will say something (it's been very rare) that 'sounds' just like my mother and boom negative transference and I am triggered and I go off on her. Like happened not long ago. Hence the taking a month (or forever) off because even though we talked through the blow up, we never quite got back on the same page and I don't think we ever will. All's I know is it Sucks with a capital "S".