Recently I learned that the oft-used description "fight or flight" means that one is in "survival mode." One's actual survival is being threatened. All the blood rushes to the torso, and leaves the brain, so one's ability to reason is impaired. One must lash out physically or run away fast.
This was a revelation to me. I've been really in this mode A LOT for the last four months and more. Things electronic and telephonic set me off, big time. So, I have been asking myself, why does my body react as if it's a life or death situation, when it is nothing of the kind? I've been thinking about my upbringing, and also to lesser extent to my marriages. I was constantly on high alert. My dad would fly into rages; I was expected in school to be a top student, and the high school I went to had some very unreasonable teachers that I was terrified of; in other words, I was "walking on egg shells," and anything could result in physical or emotional severity against me. It's no wonder I'm still on edge all the time!!!!!!!! We are told that the world is safe for us.....ha. Definitely not! But still, these extreme "over-reactions" are just that OVER the top, inability to think things through or find alternatives to fight or flight.
Now I am trying to find ways to prevent the huge outbursts of anger and rage. Anyone got any suggestions, when something triggers you into this state?
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