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Originally Posted by TeaVicar?
I don't know how to the the quote tool but f*%$, if this isn't me:
"Transference expresses the unmet need of the infant. It is about dysregulation. In this paradigm we can look at transference as a nervous system seeking its own regulation from the other, almost always on its own dysregulated but insistent terms. Transference relationships that arise with patients who have suffered developmental trauma are fraught with expectations of mothering and intensified by affect dysregualtion, distrust, and unbearable hunger. For both the patient and the therapist this transference can be challenging to manage."
I agree that ET is more than just maternal/paternal past issues and it doesn't do us much good to over pathologize. I really relate to the above piece and feel as though that's what's missing from my therapy. I know that I didn't develop normal self regulatory systems and because my therapy is psychoanalytic, I have not been given help with coping mechanisms - we talk, that's it. It isn't enough because now we are going into a break, I'm falling to pieces.
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yeah, Sebern Fishers book absolutely clicked with me better than any else i have read, especially in regard to what she wrote about development trauma and the transference/counter transference dynamics that can play out in therapy with clients who are suffering from this kind of truama. it was validating to read what she was writing...she was describing the exact interactions and relationship i had been having with my ex-T in therapy for years and she had the answer to very reason for why it was happening. it was encouraging to read her book because she really seems to 'get it' like no one else ever has.
similar to you TeaVicar, my therapy was mainly psychodynamic and i never really got any good coping skills...just lots of talking and trying to connect the past with the feelings and more times than not, it completely left me overwhelmed, triggered, and in an emotionally dysregulated state for days afterwards. even though Fishers book is about using NFB for developmental truama, i still highly recommend reading it for the information that she provides about developmental trauma, emotional dysregulation, and how it effects the therapy dynamics for both the client and the T.