I was having a similar conversation with my mother in law yesterday. For some reason we assign feelings and motives to people without any evidence that this is how the person actually feels or what they are motivated by. It's easy to say that we don't know your people well enough to make a judgement, but you may not either.

Example. The errand I was running for H yesterday was taking my mother in law some groceries that he had purchased for her. She was saying that she was mad at H because he refused to buy her trash bags because he didn't want her to be able to clean her house. That didn't sound like H at all, so I texted him and asked. Unsurprisingly, he just forgot she needed trash bags. That sounds like my H.

So I was saying to my mother in law that she has this tendency to assume the worst in people and that people are plotting against her, and sometimes she needs to take a step back. I mean, she thought her son was purposefully trying to keep her from doing something.

I think a lot of people do this with people in our lives whether we're cognizant of it or not.

It's semi related. Sorry for rambling if it isn't. I don't feel well today.